When Trauma Therapy feels Intimidating

You may have been thinking for some time now that there are things that you've gone through that keep interferring with your life today. 

Perhaps there's a negative belief about yourself that keeps getting in the way of your relationships, like, I'm hard to love, I'm not good enough, I can never measure up.

Maybe you've been hurt by people that were supposed to keep you safe, and that past pain keeps surfacing in current relationships, making it difficult to trust, receive love, or give love. 

Maybe you know you're capable of so much more but for some reason you keep yourself small and you think it might be tied to your childhood and having to stay invisible or out of the way, or feeling like attention was a negative thing.

Perhaps you were taught either directly or indirectly that having needs was a bad thing, so you deny having needs until it becomes problematic. Maybe you were taught negative ways to get your needs met either because you had to get them met on your own or because you watched the adults around you manipulate, control, and lie their way to their own needs being met. 

If any of these things resonate for you, the idea of processing through these things may feel extremely overhwelming. Maybe you've tried to before, and it made things worse. 

Early in my career I was trained in EMDR, but not DBT. I've always been passionate about helping folx through their difficult pasts. EMDR was extremely effective for many people, and I really enjoyed the work I was doing. 

But from time to time I'd work with an individual who seemed to come into therapy desperately wanting EMDR to work, wanting to do the work, however it just wouldn't for them. Over time I started to see a pattern, and realized that these individuals needed something a little bit more. That's when I was given the opportunity to be trained in DBT, and found the missing piece. 

Integrating DBT into the trauma work I do with folx brings a level of stability that many desperately seek when coming into treatment. I believe you've spent a lifetime surviving, and the combination of DBT and EMDR has the potental to help a person move from surviving to thriving.

Contact me today to see if we'd be a good fit for one another.