When Good Enough doesn't feel good enough.

It happens to all of us. One day you wake up and think, How did I get here? You look around at the demands of life—the piles of junk, the dust bunnies in the corner, the unanswered text messages—and suddenly feel consumed by inadequacy. Nothing you do seems to give you that sense of “enoughness.” Maybe you wouldn’t even recognize that feeling if it hit you.

Here are three tips for leaning into your enoughness—and letting go of the shame that tells you you’ll never measure up.

Celebrate even tiny accomplishments

If you rated an area of your life on a scale from 1 to 10 and gave it a 3—say, keeping up with laundry—you might focus on the gap between your 3 and the perfect 10. Week after week, as the piles grow, you feel stuck at the bottom. Any improvement feels moot, because even if you moved up to a 4 or 5, you’re still “not enough.”

Instead, try celebrating the small wins. Be proud of yourself for even thinking about the laundry. Be proud of having clean clothes. Be proud of doing a little better than your worst. Every step forward counts.

Track progress visually or in a journal

Anything can feel invisible if we’re not noticing it. Track your progress on your 1–10 scale—or from “terrible” to “great”—to see your efforts and wins highlighted. It doesn’t have to be fancy: try a reverse to-do list, or call it your “I did that shit” list. Seeing your progress laid out reinforces the good that’s already happening. 

Build momentum with consistent micro-actions

Big tasks can feel impossible until you break them down. If a room in your house needs cleaning or organizing, for weeks it might sit untouched. But by focusing on small, manageable micro-actions—one or two at a time—you can start chiseling away at what once felt unattainable. Momentum grows with each small task, making it easier to tackle the next one and building confidence along the way. 

When you feel overwhelmed...

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed—we all do. The key is to respond to your nervous system: rest when necessary, offer yourself grace, and return to your tasks whenever you’re able. Over time, these small shifts can help you feel more “enough” in your life.